In The Dating Game: Are Women Taking a Cue From Men?

Jacqueline- Marcus' match


When it comes to dating, some men are notorious for their lackadaisical approach to women and relationships. Texts are the choice of communication. Going dutch is the preferred method of payment when going out. AND, some like that openness of a not-so committed relationship. Whatever the case may be, (i.e. honestly not interested in a serious relationship at the moment, afraid of commitment, he’s married, etc.), women of today are taking note. Some women have adopted the, “if you can’t beat them, join them” philosophy.

“If you don’t want to talk via phone, fine, text it is and when you do call, I might just be unavailable.”

“Going dutch?? Not a problem, I have the money.”


There seems to be the notion that when a man does not want an exclusive relationship, the woman is the one who is getting the short end of the stick in these situations. Or that we’re making it so much easier for men to date us, but I beg to differ. Women are far more independent and liberated and know what they want these days, and thus, we’re making it easier for ourselves. There are women who don’t see the benefit of an exclusive, committed relationship, and yes, there are instances where she is not promiscuous, or “loose as a goose.”

In addition, with the exception of those women who stay in relationships with men for years, produce children and there’s no promise of commitment in sight, most know when to say, “ok, you’re not bringing anything to the table anymore, time to go”- much like men. Men are quick to dismiss a woman when she’s not offering him anything. Why can’t women think and behave the same way? If a woman is happy, satisfied and safe, what’s wrong with enjoying the freedom of dating someone, but having that option to date other men as she pleases? Men do…..

1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. marriagecoach1
    Mar 11, 2011 @ 17:02:27

    Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. Women need to value themselves in order to get a man to value them. Hold off on the sex unless and until there is a committed monagamous relationship. If he won’t call you on the phone, ignore his texts. If he won’t pay for the meal, don’t go out with him. Do not have kids with this man. Kids deserve a dad and the lack of committed dads are the number one cause of kids going bad.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder


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