In Relationships, Sometimes the Unconventional Works..

Last night while visiting one of my favorite blogs, I read a post of Jay-Z recording Beyoncé rehearsing before she hit the American Idol stage. Ironically, she was rehearsing for her first performance of her new single 1+1, which happens to be a love ballad (FINALLY!). While I watched the performance, I couldn’t help but to think of Jay-Z and Beyoncé ‘s relationship over the years. In the world of Hollywood, where marriages occur after only six months of dating, Jay and Bey definitely took the unconventional route and dated for years before eventually marrying, and so far, it seems to be working, for them.

From the some of the earlier pics we have seen of the couple posted on gossip sites, their body language would suggest they weren’t even in love, or even knew each other! Amidst their courtship, people questioned why they wouldn’t admit they were together, why they wouldn’t talk about their relationship in public, and when they were going to marry. Now betrothed, the new question is, “when is Beyoncé going to start popping out kids?!?”

The fact of the matter is, Jay-Z and Beyoncé are doing what works for them and could serve as a model for couples in terms of setting your own relationship’s “terms and conditions.” In reality, there is no relationship blueprint; no one formula that works for everyone and I think the unconventional does work in relationships. With the divorce rate is at an all-time high, following your own standard is ideal, but being on the same page is key. Meaning, if you know you aren’t marriage material, then having a long-term relationship with someone who wants to get married isn’t smart. While it is snubbed by mainstream society, if an open marriage works for you and yours, then do your thing. Relationship gurus, movies, TV, magazines, and even our family, friends and religion are to blame for how we dictate what goes on in our relationships. Now, there are some things that will never get a pass, like relationship abuse or having an affair and knocking up the family’s maid (side-eye), but at the end of the day, in order to be happy, you must follow the beat to your own drum.

Signing off,

The Queen

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