No Mother Can Replace A Father.

Father’s Day was yesterday and once again all of the facebook statuses, tweets, and myspace messages about how people are so grateful that their moms have been both mothers and fathers to them. There are profile pictures being changed to pictures of mothers. I seriously thought that it was mother’s day all over again. I understand that a lot of men, especially in the black community get the stereotypical rap of not being fathers to their children which in turn leaves the single mothers to handle both motherly and fatherly responsibilities for the children. I commend mothers for the jobs they take on that they just shouldn’t have to, but in the end a father’s role can never be replaced through a mother.

Because of an absentee father, there are just some things that a child will miss out on. In a perfect world with a complete home, the father is the provider, the staple of the family. He also represents different things to both sons and daughters. In a sons life, he shows him how to be a true man and also by how he treats his wife, how to treat a woman. In a daughters life, he represents the caretaker in her life and the person she chooses to marry will have the same values that are instilled within her father.

Women are the most resilient creatures on this planet. We have the amazing ability to adapt to whatever situation we have to take on. Single mothers have been amazing in raising their children the best way they can under the circumstances. Even though we are all of these things, a father’s role in a child’s life can not be replaced. No matter how hard you try to elevate a mother’s duties, she will never reach the pinnacle to replace a father’s influence.

I’m not saying that people that have come from broken homes or absentee fathers are missing anything within themselves. I happen to be a product of it. I am just pointing out the fact that a father’s void can never be fully filled through a mother.

We see mothers getting uplifted on father’s day..what about the dads that are doing it all by themselves? What about the women who have left their children all alone with their fathers? How often do you see a dad being praised on mother’s day? Although it is very uncommon, it is an occurrence.

I think the best thing is to just give each parent the right to their own respective holidays. Let father’s day be just for the fathers. Just as there are deadbeat dads across the world, there are just as many decent, hardworking, and respectable guys that are talking care of their children. I’m sure men already feel as though they don’t get enough credit as their roles within their families and children; let’s give them the praise that they do deserve.

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