“The Black Entertainment Complex”

 Hee-larious Quote of the Week: “You see my face??? I ain’t even worried ‘bout dat.”

FOX News anchor, Laura Ingram decided in a news segment to call out the NBC network for allowing Chris Brown to perform in light of his past and recent antics. Unsurprisingly biased, they set out and found three #teamCBreezy fans who, well……..kept it real and were obviously not aware that they were talking to FOX NEWS! SMH..

At the 3:21 mark, FOX News Correspondent, Jehmu Greene, said the following:

“In Chris Brown’s example, he is a prime example of the black entertainment complex- not holding him accountable”

Hmmm, “the black entertainment complex.” Interesting. Peep the video here and share your thoughts! In the black community, should we hold black entertainers more “accountable” for their actions? In what way?


CoffyTalk Poll: Thoughts on Film, “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man”

It was recently announced that a film adaptation of Steve Harvey’s mega successful book,  Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man is in the works. With the likes of Chris Brown, Taraji Henson, Gabrielle Union, and Kevin Hart, it is sure to be a star studded presentation. It seems, that with both criticism and praise of the self-help book, folks are on the fence about whether or not this is an endeavor worthy of our patronage.  Here at CoffyTalk, we’ve already discussed the dilemma of supporting African American representations in film, even if they don’t show us in the best light. And while we don’t know for sure which route this movie will choose to go,  we can only hope that  the writers will do both Harvey, and the black community justice. (We all know what happens when they don’t). Now, we want to hear from you. Are you excited to see Steve Harvey’s book on the big screen??


We thought we’d interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to wish the resident royalty here at CT a very Happy Birthday!! (We know you’d prefer Idris Elba on a platter, but this is the best we could do, boo.) Let’s all wish The Queen well on her special day!

Poll: Is the F* Word Worth $100,000?

By now we’ve all heard about Kobe Bryant’s homophobic outburst and subsequent $100,000 fine. Let’s not delude ourselves: we’ve all said hurtful, mean, or spiteful things out of anger–often times things that we don’t mean. But Bryant’s fine has more to do with proving a point than anything. Derogatory slurs–whether racial, homphobic, or otherwise–are simply unacceptable. And while many agree that he was wrong in his actions, they are some that don’t see the point in punishing him for words simply said in frustration. Here at CT, we want to know where you stand on the issue.

Fun Fridays:Playground Games…What Was Your Favorite?

“Slide, baby 1, 1…..”

Remember Gigolo?  How about Miss Merry Mack? Dodgeball? Tag? No matter your age, everyone had a favorite playground past time when you were younger. I stumbled across www.folkstreams.net/, a site dedicated to preserving documentaries of various American traditions and cultures. This particular video features a group of young girls back in 1967 doing their, “cheers,” as I use to call them. Check it out:



I decided to post this video today because it is a reflection of a tradition passed down from generation to generation. No one really knows who created these cheers, when or where they were created, but once you heard them on the playground you immediately became familiar and it would stay with you forever.

So, what was your favorite playground game or cheer?

Happy Friday! Go Rams! #fromaWahoo

**GUEST POST:**Why Do Women Give Up Their Dreams For Successful Men?

Today’s guest post comes from Samantha from Richmond, Virginia.  If you’re interested in guest writing for CT, send all entries to coffytalk@gmail.com. Entries should be one page or less.

The other day I saw a photo of Ludacris and his girlfriend on a blog.  The caption read “Rapper, Ludacris, and his girlfriend, Eudoxie, former med school student.”  It kind of struck me that that’s the third or fourth time that I have seen her titled that way: “Luda’s girlfriend, former med student.” I kept wondering, Why is she a ‘former’ med school student (FMSS)? I say, let’s just call it what a spade a spade; she got title #2 , FMSS, to continue being title #1, Ludacris’ girlfriend.  And since no one asked me what I think, I will gladly give my opinion on it: that’s just disgusting!  She’s not even a wife or even a fiancé; she’s just some famous dude’s gf/FMSS.  This woman worked hard in school her entire life, at least 16 years, and then she just drops out of medical school for a guy, a very rich, famous guy, but nonetheless some guy. What a cliché?!

I always wonder if these “former” women planned this all along.  I remember a girl in high school telling me she always knew she would be a stay at home mom, (SAHM)—please note, I went to a private high school, generally attended by the Governor’s children and costs $17K per year.  I asked her, “If that’s the case then why go to college and waste even more of your parents’ money?”  She felt college was a good place to meet men and with a college education she would be able to better help her future children with their homework or serve on the board of some organization.  The sad thing was five or six other girls said they had the same exact plans for themselves.  **Shrug** This still sounded like a waste of money to me then, and it still does now.  

I wonder if Luda’s gf, FMSS, was one of these girls…16 years of hard work, just to give it up when you meet the guy, who seems to fit your bill, spends enough money on you, or at least puts it down like you imagine your Mr. Him would.  Would she really have gone that far with her education and more importantly, wasted all of that money if that’s all she planned for herself all along? What if she never met anyone and actually had to—gasp—work for a living and start her grueling residency because she hadn’t met her sexually satisfying, famous and generous financier yet.

For the ones who actually are those girls, the “former…”, there should be a major in college just for them: future SAHM.  It would be interdisciplinary, so they could be well-rounded individuals.   It should include classes like cooking, finding your own hobby, how to throw the best dinner parties, or most importantly how to get that man to put a ring on it.  They should also be rewarded, not penalized if they leave school early because they get pregnant and/or engaged.  Personally, I think it’s good to just put it out there what your real goals are from the beginning.

Just to be clear, being a SAHM is an amazing thing to do, if that is what you really want for yourself.  I still think there is a difference between people who are SAHMs and people who pretend to want all of these professional goals for themselves until they actually meet Mr. Him.  My own sister is a transitioning SAHM, current wife, current A student, and soon to be nurse.  She’s a transitioning former SAHM, because she thought putting in her own hard work and pursuing her own dreams would a better example for her children.  On that same note, I can’t help but wonder what those “former…” women can tell their own kids if they want drop out of school to follow a lover around the world or join the three-legged circus or whatever. Plus, it is always good to have your own life outside of your relationship with a man.  One of my best friend’s told me one reason she wouldn’t get married right now is because she wants both she and her man to be well established before moving to that level.  Both my sister and my friend are lucky to be with men who support them and want them to pursue their own goals, while building lives together.  Those guys are out there. That’s why Neyo and Jamie Foxx had those hit song’s, “Ms. Independent” and “Cause She Got Her Own.”

One radio contest recently was looking for RVA’s biggest Power Couple. Now that is a caption that I want! RVAs biggest Power Couple. Personally, I prefer the Jay-Z and Beyonce marriage model: they both have really big egos and they walk together like that because they both can back it up. So for me, I will keep my Anthropology degree. Because my caption, with whomever my Mr. Him will be, will always read, “Very attractive, intelligent man who runs shit and, of course, puts it down in bed, and me, the even more beautiful, intelligent head bitch that you know is running shit too!”

So where are the guys who like these FMSS type of women? What are they like?  When they are in college should they major in finance and minor in breadwinner?  That way their captions will always have them as the headliner and the one making the moves, like Ludacris always reads in his.  Obviously, he is one of those guys that likes the women, who regardless of how intelligent they are could have just majored in SAHM and saved money.  Is that why celebrities say they want to date “normal” women? So they can do pursue their own dreams, while someone else follows them around.  So I have to wonder do these guys even respect these women, the “former…” women?   Seriously though, do they see them as equals? Or are these women just additions to their own lengthy caption?

To Dr. King, and All Others that Have Paved the Way: Thank You


We are not makers of history, we are made by history.”–Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

With current issues such as gay rights, and immigration laws being  hot topics, how do you think Dr. King’s message relates to us today???



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