Job Woes: Responsibility vs. More Money

I heard this topic on the radio a few weeks ago and I thought it would warrant a good conversation. Would you take a job without a pay raise? More responsibility with no incentives? I know most people would say absolutely not!…I would never take a higher position without more money!” Think about this though: the economy is bad and to be honest this situation could very well happen to you. Of course the downside to the situation is that you accept the position with more hassle and reap no benefits. If you want to look at the bigger picture, even though you aren’t getting any more money with this new position, the responsilibities could propel you into another company with a dramatic increase in pay simply because of the sacrifice you made in the past. Do you take sacrifice now and hold on to it for a future pay off or settle for right now? Let’s hear it!

And We Like Buffets Because…??

I’m sure there is no other country on this planet that has as many buffet chain corporations as America. Matter of fact, does any other country have buffets? Buffets just seem to be another American pastime. All you can eat for a fairly decent price, and best believe everyone will make it their business to eat their money’s worth. Of course it’s a great idea but no one ever takes into the factors that really come along with buffets. I decided to break it down into three categories: the good, the bad, and the just plain nasty.


Paying 6-15 bucks for an opportunity to eat all that you can fit into your stomachs and purses if you’re really desperate. You get to pig out on the usual foods that you necessarily wouldn’t be able to. It’s your opportunity to taste those dishes that you know are totally bad for you but hey, if it’s in front of you why not scarf down a few. You don’t have anyone telling you to eat your vegetables because come on let’s be real, who eats healthy food at buffets?


The thing that racks my nerves is that all the food is just out in the open. People pick, prod, and scramble through food just because they have the option to pick the best out of what they want. Kids walk around sneezing and doing all kinds of things, people talk over the food as they put them on their plates. Some people even have the nerve to put things back on their plates that they all of a sudden don’t want. This is making me sick just thinking about it.


Ever notice that they bring out this food in amazing fast time?  To me, there’s something wrong if food comes in and out as quickly as it does at buffets. Also, I know you all know about this one: when you pick a plate out of the bin and it still has food on it (gag) so you put it to the side and pick up another one that’s clean. Seriously, what makes you think that plate is even cleaner than the one that actually had visible food on it?!??

On a serious note, buffets are doing nothing but promoting the ever climbing obesity rate in the United States. We are eating our lives away just for the sake of being able to do it for cheap. Who could resist food when it is put in front of you like that? Buffets allow no type of portion control, actually the word portion doesn’t even make sense in the same sentence as a buffet. Besides, the plate thing should be enough to turn you off from them anyways. (ughk)

Health Tip: Sunscreen and Sunblock..Yes You Need It Too

Everyone enjoys a good tan in the sun but it is still important to protect our skin while we are doing so. Most African Americans think that because we have more melanin in our skin than other races, we aren’t susceptible to skin cancer and sunburn. On the contrary that is untrue. Although our chances may be lower, we are still at risk. We are entering the middle of summer and the sun will be shinning brighter than ever. It is important to be aware of the different types of rays that you will be encountering, which are UVA, UVB, and UVC.

According to an article from Optimal Health Today, “UVA, UVB and UVC are all types of radiation that are given off by the sun. UVC is absorbed by the atmosphere and never reaches the earth’s surface. UVB is partially absorbed by the earth’s ozone layer and in the atmosphere, with the remainder reaching the earth’s surface. Most UVA reaches the earth’s surface”.

“UVB is commonly associated with sunburn, and together, UVB and sunburn care considered to be the main cause of basal and squamous cell carcinoma, as well as a significant cause of malignant melanoma. UVA, which penetrates deeply into the skin, is also thought to be a factor in premature ageing and skin cancers.”

Higher SPF sunscreens don’t give you a higher level of protection, it just determines the length of time it will protect you’re skin. If you are continuously in the sun, don’t forget to reapply. Also, there are some common sense things you know such as if you are in the water, you are going to need to reapply more often.

We tend to interchange the words, sunscreen and sunblock. Let’s define each one: “Sunscreens absorb UV rays, while sunblocks deflect them. A sunblock, properly applied, prevents all UV from reaching the skin. Sunblocks used to be easily recognisable as the bright white stripes that skiers and lifeguards once wore; they are now much more cosmetically acceptable.”

All in all, no one is safe from the harms of the sun, so it is important to keep ourselves protected at all times.

Enjoy the sun!

The Half Year Point: Are You On The Path To Achieving Your Goals?

The middle of the year has dawned upon us and I don’t know about anyone else but it makes me wonder how far along have I gotten to achieving my goals for the year. I have never been one of those people that makes a list of New Year’s Resolutions but I do kind of have an idea about things I want to get done in the year. There is something about setting a goal for yourself that makes you work harder to accomplish it. How many of you all create “to-do” lists and love the feeling of checking something off when you’ve gotten it done? So let’s take it to a broader perspective; how many things have you checked off this year?

Most people by this point have literally forgotten any New Year’s Resolutions they made for themselves or they simply haven’t really made any effort to achieve them thus far in the year. Things happens, people come and go, careers and relationships change. Now that we have found ourselves in the middle of the year, it’s time to reestablish and reaffirm the things we need to get down.

Our generation has been known to be slackers; a generation that doesn’t know the meaning of hard work and determination. On the other hand, no other generation has faced the hardships that we have thus far. Therefore we need to make sure that we are on point with everything.

Start with smaller goals that progress towards a larger goal. Sometimes having a general goal can be so overwhelming that you don’t even want to tackle it or choose to avoid it because of how large it is. Create a master plan and then set up little goals that will bring you to the larger goal. Write them down! Don’t just walk around with all these objectives in your mind; I guarantee you that you will probably forget half of the things that you planned to do in the first place. Finally, don’t let any unnecessary distractions get in your way. Sometimes people are brought into your life simply to take you off track from what you are doing. Others may have been lingering around just waiting for the opportunity to take you down. Surround yourself with people that are trying to achieve just like you are. Positive energy will do nothing but lift you higher.

Confessions Of A Transitioning Natural..

If you guys remember, all three members of CT are  on their ways to natural hair, more so in three different stages from completely natural to the beginning stages of transitioning. I find myself to be in the middle. As of June, I have been transitioning for 18 months! I thought I would never be able to do it, but here I am at the end of my transitioning process. I plan to cut the remaining ends of my permed hair by the end of the summer (i’ve been punking out).

I have experimented with numerous products trying to find the “regimen” that will suit my hair. One thing I love to do is try the products that are popular underground before they make it to the mainstream audience. I tend to have more faith in these products because I know that they aren’t mass produced, which means that the product is still the quality it portrays. I’m going to highlight some underground products from two companies; some I have tried and others I plan to try in the near future.

Oyin Handmade

I faithfully use their products. I believe that I have mentioned them before in an older post of mine, but they are a company based in Baltimore, MD which is only about 40 mins from me. They have a shop that is open for a certain amount of hours a week and also give the opportunity for you to be able to help package products and keep some goodies for yourself. My most favorite products include

I love the whole juices trio. After washing my hair I usually just pick one at random and spray it down.

The burnt sugar pomade is great with providing a natural hold instead of using a gel that can cause breakage.

Great conditioner that has an amazing slip for dentangling!

If you don’t try anything I’ve mentioned then please try the whipped pudding. The shea butter concoction is amazing for sealing the moisture in your hair. I use this many for any type of twist out, braid out, or bantu knot hair style.

Uncle Funky’s Daughter

This is a company based in Houston, TX. I heard about them from a fellow co working and I am dying to get a hold of some of their products. I know I will have to order directly from them and I love everything about it coming straight from the seller. I will do a detailed report about them soon once I save up some pennies to do some long distance ordering.

No Mother Can Replace A Father.

Father’s Day was yesterday and once again all of the facebook statuses, tweets, and myspace messages about how people are so grateful that their moms have been both mothers and fathers to them. There are profile pictures being changed to pictures of mothers. I seriously thought that it was mother’s day all over again. I understand that a lot of men, especially in the black community get the stereotypical rap of not being fathers to their children which in turn leaves the single mothers to handle both motherly and fatherly responsibilities for the children. I commend mothers for the jobs they take on that they just shouldn’t have to, but in the end a father’s role can never be replaced through a mother.

Because of an absentee father, there are just some things that a child will miss out on. In a perfect world with a complete home, the father is the provider, the staple of the family. He also represents different things to both sons and daughters. In a sons life, he shows him how to be a true man and also by how he treats his wife, how to treat a woman. In a daughters life, he represents the caretaker in her life and the person she chooses to marry will have the same values that are instilled within her father.

Women are the most resilient creatures on this planet. We have the amazing ability to adapt to whatever situation we have to take on. Single mothers have been amazing in raising their children the best way they can under the circumstances. Even though we are all of these things, a father’s role in a child’s life can not be replaced. No matter how hard you try to elevate a mother’s duties, she will never reach the pinnacle to replace a father’s influence.

I’m not saying that people that have come from broken homes or absentee fathers are missing anything within themselves. I happen to be a product of it. I am just pointing out the fact that a father’s void can never be fully filled through a mother.

We see mothers getting uplifted on father’s day..what about the dads that are doing it all by themselves? What about the women who have left their children all alone with their fathers? How often do you see a dad being praised on mother’s day? Although it is very uncommon, it is an occurrence.

I think the best thing is to just give each parent the right to their own respective holidays. Let father’s day be just for the fathers. Just as there are deadbeat dads across the world, there are just as many decent, hardworking, and respectable guys that are talking care of their children. I’m sure men already feel as though they don’t get enough credit as their roles within their families and children; let’s give them the praise that they do deserve.

Unwanted Flirtation In The Office: Do You Pick Your Battles Or Report It?

When I did temporary work, I had the opportunity to work in difference offices and see how the dynamics vary from place to place. There were times when I noticed office flirtation, not necessarily wanted. Usually in most instances, people will just choose to brush them off because of the drama that will come of the situation. How far would you allow unwanted flirtation in the office to occur? Sometimes its best to take one for the team just to keep security in your job but what exactly is enough for you to take further action?

Most of the time the unwanted attention comes from men, let’s be honest. If there are any guys reading this right now and it’s happened to you, please share your story because it actually is a rarity. It could be anything from an inappropriate comment to a blatant stare at something they just shouldn’t be looking at. You have those people that are just so bold in their positions that they do and say what they please knowing that you won’t say anything because at the end of the say it will only make your job more difficult not theirs.

Not that anyone deserves any type of badgering on the job but you do have some people that just ask for it. Everyone is entitled to wear whatever they what, but when you decide to wear things in the office space that can take away from the job at hand, you kind of bring it upon yourself. If you want to wear things that show everything God gave you, that’s all fine and good but remember the consequences you take when doing such; you may have things said to you that you necessarily didn’t bargain for. It could be anything from a skirt that’s too tight to a shirt that shows every muscle and six pack. There is a thing called office etiquette.

Also, some people just don’t have the resistant as a human being to understand when things aren’t appropriate. That person could be tired with the situation they go home to everyday and are just looking to find a thrill in their regular lives. Individuals like to stir up controversy in order to redirect the issues they have within themselves and others.  They also like to see how far they can push the envelope with you, knowing that you probably won’t take it to another level because of the consequences that could come from it.

At end of the day no one deserves to have anything unwanted done to them. We, as human beings, should respect such wishes and treat others the way we would want to be treated. We come to work to make money, and sometimes actually get a rewarding experience from it, not entertain foolishness.

So where do you draw the line? Can you handle the sly remarks, stares, and comments? Does a simple touch that you know could have been avoided put you over the edge? Where is the line between harmless annoyance and flat out badgering?

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