The Half Year Point: Are You On The Path To Achieving Your Goals?

The middle of the year has dawned upon us and I don’t know about anyone else but it makes me wonder how far along have I gotten to achieving my goals for the year. I have never been one of those people that makes a list of New Year’s Resolutions but I do kind of have an idea about things I want to get done in the year. There is something about setting a goal for yourself that makes you work harder to accomplish it. How many of you all create “to-do” lists and love the feeling of checking something off when you’ve gotten it done? So let’s take it to a broader perspective; how many things have you checked off this year?

Most people by this point have literally forgotten any New Year’s Resolutions they made for themselves or they simply haven’t really made any effort to achieve them thus far in the year. Things happens, people come and go, careers and relationships change. Now that we have found ourselves in the middle of the year, it’s time to reestablish and reaffirm the things we need to get down.

Our generation has been known to be slackers; a generation that doesn’t know the meaning of hard work and determination. On the other hand, no other generation has faced the hardships that we have thus far. Therefore we need to make sure that we are on point with everything.

Start with smaller goals that progress towards a larger goal. Sometimes having a general goal can be so overwhelming that you don’t even want to tackle it or choose to avoid it because of how large it is. Create a master plan and then set up little goals that will bring you to the larger goal. Write them down! Don’t just walk around with all these objectives in your mind; I guarantee you that you will probably forget half of the things that you planned to do in the first place. Finally, don’t let any unnecessary distractions get in your way. Sometimes people are brought into your life simply to take you off track from what you are doing. Others may have been lingering around just waiting for the opportunity to take you down. Surround yourself with people that are trying to achieve just like you are. Positive energy will do nothing but lift you higher.


What’s Your Therapeutic Release?

“All work, and no play makes THE QUEEN a dull girl”

I like to think of myself as the “creative type.” Throughout my life since childhood I always kept an outlet for me to express myself readily available, whether it was a sketch pad to sketch a design or my mother’s old magazines to make collages, I always had something to do. I even overheard my mother tell her friend once that I was weird child because I like to plant flowers instead of play with my Barbie dolls, (don’t judge me). As time progressed, I started sewing, painting and re-upholstering furniture during my college days. To me, this was my form of therapeutic release; this is what I did to let off steam, to battle boredom, and to create something really. For others, it’s working out, playing some ball, reading, etc. Lately, I’ve noticed that I am no longer allowing myself time to “create” like I would like.  I check design and food blogs religiously and love looking at other people’s creations for inspiration, but it’s not rubbing off on me unfortunately. I give excuses when others ask, “When are you going to design something again?” I’m afraid that I am becoming that person I always feared I’d grow into:

The Robotic Nine to Fiver.

Where's the Coffee?

You know, the person who hits the snooze button three times before they finally get out of bed, zombie-like walk into work, stay there for about eight hours and leave at five, get home, eat and fall asleep and repeat the pattern all over again the next day. No variety, no spontaneity, just boring consistency. And this is not good. Everyone needs an outlet for creative expression or a therapeutic release. If you go day-to-day with the same routine, no room for your “me time” you’re likely to implode. Unlike most Taureans, I like change, I strive to do something ‘different’ from my routine every day, but I haven’t been taking the initiative to return to my ‘creative roots.’ What is it going to take for me to pull out the sewing machine and fabric? Or the brushes and acrylics?


Help CoffyTalkers! What shall I do? What’s your therapeutic release?

White House Setting The Standard For Change..

Although this piece of information may not have not have been a headliner, it is pretty important for our country regardless because it shows the direction and movement in change. Recently the Obama administration introduced Jeremy Bernard as the new White House social secretary. Bernard is the first man and openly gay person to serve in this position. Both aspects seem to be evenly monumental as women usually hold this position and also the fact that he is openly gay.

“Jeremy shares our vision for the White House as the People’s House, one that celebrates our history and culture in dynamic and inclusive ways,” President Obama said in a statement.

Bernard definitely isn’t in this position to fill any type of social quota. At only 49 years old Bernard has been a force within  Democratic  politics and also the advancement of gay rights. He helped to raise millions for Obama’s presidential campaign. Currently Bernard was the Senior Advisor to the Ambassador at the US Embassy. Prior to that role, he worked for two years as the White House Liaison to the National Endowment for the Humanities.

Bernard leaves his post at the US Embassy in Paris to become the first man in more than 200 years of the White House’s  history to be named as the chief host and event planner.

I believe one thing we can take for this monumental event is that your social, cultural, or even racial difference don’t have to dictate how far you get in life. If you work hard at what you want to do in your life, those aspects won’t become a factor. If you use those aspects as a crutch, then you won’t get nearly as far as you are capable of going.

It’s All A Dream..But It Doesn’t Have To Be!

It’s Monday. The alarm clock goes off at some wee hour in the morning and you think to yourself, “here we go again..” You drag yourself out of the bed and proceed to do your morning rituals before heading off to the place you’ve been dreading…work. Let’s be real, most of us are doing something that we really don’t want to be doing career wise, but unfortunately the credit card bills and student loans won’t pay themselves. Many of us are in a limbo where we are still trying to figure out what we want to do with our lives; whether it be going back to grad school or a complete career change.

I don’t know about anyone else, but I rather be spending my youth traveling the world and doing things I’ve never done before. Go ahead, admit it. I know you all are daydreaming about the things you could be doing with your life while pushing papers; traveling to Europe, Africa, Egypt, you name it!

One thing I refuse to be is a middle aged woman settled in her career but has never seen the world. Most adults wait until retirement to do the things that they’ve always wanted to do; I’d rather spend my entire life experiencing everything this world has to offer.

On this Monday morning and every day, challenge yourselves to be outside of the box. No longer settle for the things you are doing now, but plan for your immediate future. Don’t let the boundaries of how you are suppose to live your live dictate the way you want to live your life.

So let’s hear it! If you could blow off doing the things that don’t interest you, what would you be doing? Dream Big!

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