Practice What You Preach


“You say there’s a lesson that you wanna teach, well here I am baby, practice what you preach”

I hope you read that lyric with Barry White’s baritone’s voice playing in your head. Today’s topic is universal; all over the board. It can be applied to relationships, religion, friendships, marriages, finances, etc., etc., you name it, it can be applied anywhere, even to what Barry was referencing…sex. I once was at a place in my life (last month) where I needed advice on pretty much everything. I wanted to get opinions and feedback from others to ensure that I was making the proper decisions. While most of the advice was good, I found it problematic that the advice that I was given was not being practiced by the same people who had done the “preaching” and honestly, I have found myself as well on the not practicing what you preaching end.  Generally speaking, it is always easier to give advice than actually follow the advice you give. That is because you are the outside person looking in on the situation, so you can give advice without any biases. Yet, once you find yourself smack dab in a similar situation, you forget about all that Dr. Philing you had been doing.  You begin to make adjustments here and there and give exceptions to the rules. You forget that you dated a level 10 chick on the fugly scale, but you clowning your boy on the women he dates. You take to Twitter and Facebook to drop Think Exist quotes knowledge on your statuses/tweets, yet you don’t take the message of those quotes you post and apply it to your own life. Or you talk about starting anew, yet you stage an offering to get real offerings..**side-eye**

What’s worse is once you realize this person is great at giving advice, but just not great at following it, you begin to question their advice, feedback, words, etc., from that point onward. You listen, but you take it with a grain of salt and in the worse case, you become a cynic.  You become that cynic because this is a person that you probably have trusted, believed and revered. You looked to this person for advice, yet if they say one thing and do the opposite, it’s hypocritical and we all know that hypocrisy is never respected. I close this post by saying that some advice is good, but your own thoughts should never be put on the back burner for someone else’s- unless you intend on jumping off a bridge. Only you know what’s completely best for you and your life, “ya dig?” If you have found yourself in a place where someone loved to give you advice, but wasn’t following their own advice, what do you do? How do you handle these folks?


Dear Mr. Trump-SIT DOWN!

Just when we thought The Tea Baggers Party had pulled everything they could possibly pull out of their a** to discredit the Obama Administration, in walks Mr. Tang-face comb-over himself, Donald Trump, and his antics. When I first heard about the possibility of Trump running for President in the 2012 elections, I chuckled initially, but I actually gave the guy the benefit of the doubt. Hey, anyone can declare, “I am running for President” right? Well, in true Donald Trump fashion, he began to make these crazy accusations about the authenticity of Prezzie O’s birthplace, insinuating that Mr. Obama was not  a U.S. citizen. Once those suspicions were silenced by CNN producing the President’s birth certificate, Trump jumped to the latest, questioning his educational credentials.

“I have friends who have smart sons with great marks, great boards, great everything and they can’t get into Harvard,” Trump said. “We don’t know a thing about this guy.” Source


What is up with this dude? So are you saying Mr. Trump because your friends’ sons are smart with “great marks” didn’t get into Harvard that there is no way Obama could have gotten in himself? I am officially declaring Trump the new Sarah Palin of the upcoming elections, that is, if his flame doesn’t burn out before then. Everytime he utters a word, I cringe at how ridiculous he sounds. I find him quite pathetic in making the most outlandish accusations about a man who has proven that nothing was handed to him on a silver platter. I mean, I assuming that the, “great marks, great boards and great everything” reference was code for, “good ole boy connections” basically. I also find it even more pathetic that media outlets are wasting time giving him interviews to broadcast this crazy talk. Where is Bill Cosby??!?! We all know how big of a goon Mr. Cosby is, he tells it like it is, who’s gonna check Mr. Cosby? Trump tried, but failed. I am oh so curious what he has to say now about Mr. Trump’s new attempt for more media attention. How can we forget his most recent interview:

Gotta love that long pause. What do you guys think about Donald Tang-face, comb-over Trump’s antics? Does he need to sit down or should we give him a chance?

America, the Beautiful Still?

This post was inspired by a tomato. YES, an effing tomato, a $2.49 hothouse tomato to be exact.  You see, I have been trying my hardest to eat “healthier” and live a better, healthier lifestyle in general. Yesterday I went to the store to get some produce and as I checked out my hothouse tomato, the register read $2.49….

**scratched record sound**

$2.49!?! For a tomato?!??! “Um sir, you can take that tomato off my bill, thanks.”

I walked to my car defeated and disappointed. I had plans for that tomato, it would have been an aid in the beginning of my new healthy living lifestyle. Instead, it would spark a firestorm of thoughts and emotions. The truth is, I couldn’t afford a $2.49 tomato. I had to choose between eating healthier or paying bills, and I had to choose the latter.  At that moment, I felt like many Americans who want to eat healthier, but can’t afford the rising costs of produce and other nutritious foods because they have bills to pay.  More so, I thought about so many African-Americans in this country who are bombarded with statistics of our demographic having the highest rates of heart disease, high cholesterol, etc.,etc. Yet if you go in most of our neighborhoods, I bet that you cannot find ONE decent supermarket with adequate produce. If you do, I am sure you will be paying a load of money. However, the selections of alcohol and junk food is phenomenal…much to choose from and very inexpensive (insert sarcasm face). While the media and the First Lady are off promoting healthy eating, the problem is most Americans are not and cannot follow suit. 

From there, I thought about the high school and college graduates itching to go college or back to school to obtain post-graduate degrees, but are apprehensive due to the economy. For fear they’ll be in debt for the rest of their lives and no job to show for the years of hardwork and the ton of student loans.

I thought about how hypocritical and full of sh*t America can be sometimes. Don’t tell me to eat healthy or that I am not eating healthy, but you do nothing to assist in the problem. Don’t tell me to get a master’s degree, but then turn me down for jobs and I’m left paying off student loans. Don’t tell me to be all that I can be, but fail to pay for my family’s well-being and my medical bills when I’m injured in your wars. Don’t tell me that there are too many teenage pregnancies, but then try to cut off funding to Planned Parenthood. Don’t go over our President’s presidency with a fine tooth comb, but when the last one was off effing up the country that put us in this predicament in the first place, you turned your head, or worse, failed to vote.

Yes, I am talking to you America, get it together.


A disappointed citizen

America: The Enforcer

It seems as though America has a problem with minding it’s own business. What else is new though? America’s new fascination is Libya. Move over Afghanistan and Egypt, we have other business to butt into. Since when did it become America’s responsibility to be the enforcer on other people’s situations?

I have respect for our President, but is he following in the footsteps of his predecessors? I think as a powerful country among many we should be informed about things that are going on in other countries but is it our place to intervene when we don’t like the things we are seeing?

The video below is an official statement from President Obama about the situation in Libya and what the USA plans to do if anything about the current situation.

Do you feel as though the USA is getting in way over its head? We have our own issues in America right now; is it really plausible to get involved in something else or is it because we are such a powerful nation that we are obligated to force our help regardless?

White House Setting The Standard For Change..

Although this piece of information may not have not have been a headliner, it is pretty important for our country regardless because it shows the direction and movement in change. Recently the Obama administration introduced Jeremy Bernard as the new White House social secretary. Bernard is the first man and openly gay person to serve in this position. Both aspects seem to be evenly monumental as women usually hold this position and also the fact that he is openly gay.

“Jeremy shares our vision for the White House as the People’s House, one that celebrates our history and culture in dynamic and inclusive ways,” President Obama said in a statement.

Bernard definitely isn’t in this position to fill any type of social quota. At only 49 years old Bernard has been a force within  Democratic  politics and also the advancement of gay rights. He helped to raise millions for Obama’s presidential campaign. Currently Bernard was the Senior Advisor to the Ambassador at the US Embassy. Prior to that role, he worked for two years as the White House Liaison to the National Endowment for the Humanities.

Bernard leaves his post at the US Embassy in Paris to become the first man in more than 200 years of the White House’s  history to be named as the chief host and event planner.

I believe one thing we can take for this monumental event is that your social, cultural, or even racial difference don’t have to dictate how far you get in life. If you work hard at what you want to do in your life, those aspects won’t become a factor. If you use those aspects as a crutch, then you won’t get nearly as far as you are capable of going.

Let’s Talk About It: President Obama’s Speech at the Tucson Memorial Service


Five days ago, our country was rocked with the news that six people–including a federal judge–had been killed, and 13 individuals–including a U.S. Congresswoman–had been wounded at an event outside of a supermarket in Tucson, Arizona. Yesterday, President Barack Obama addressed the nation at a memorial held for the victims. Here at CT, our hearts go out to everyone that has been affected by this horrible tragedy. The following are the things that we took away from our president’s inspirational message.

TeasTer’s reflections:

“But what we can’t do is use this tragedy as one more occasion to turn on each other. That we cannot do. ” Words to live by. I loved this speech. In a time where many of us are finding cause for blame, and trying to figure out what went wrong, and why…we have forgotten the importance of coming together in the face of tragedy. Its so easy for us to see the face of the man that took away so many innocent lives, and loathe him. But it will do nothing to help heal the scars left behind by this horrific incident. “So sudden loss causes us to look backward – but it also forces us to look forward, to reflect on the present and the future, on the manner in which we live our lives and nurture our relationships with those who are still with us.” If there is anything that we should take away from this catastrophe, it should be the positive notion that we can be better. Maybe our gun laws should be re-examined, perhaps there is something that we can do about the state of the mental health system here. But whatever changes need to be made, they should be made with the idea to help, and heal, not to hurt and point fingers. Obama is right. We should grow to cherish the “now” and those that are still with us today, no matter what misfortunes have occurred in the past. It is better for us to honor those who lost their lives by being a better nation and a stronger group of people, than by searching for someone, or something to attack.

TLC’s reflections:

My favorite line of the speech was, “we can’t rid the world of evil, but we can change the way we treat each other.” I think President Obama wasn’t just talking about this tragedy, but everything that is going on right now between Democrats and Republicans. It seems like this country only wants to come together in a tragedy and then go at each other again once the mourning has passed. Why do we need a tragedy to bring us together? America is one of the most unique countries in the world because we hold so many different cultures within one nation. There are too many different ideas and inspirations not be to one of the strongest nations; but yet we let our differences of opinion affect the greater good of everyone. We need to learn to be compassionate with one another and not be so quick to judge.  I believe that this was the best speech Pres. Obama has made since his inauguration because I felt the emotions in his words. When he talked about the 9 yr old girl, it felt as though he were talking about his own children. When he talked about treating one another like you would want to be treated, it felt as though he was experiencing it. When he talked about holding on to your loved ones now before they are gone, it felt as though he was talking about loved ones that he has lost. Hopefully one day this country learns to care every day about one another, and not just when we loose a fellow American in a tragedy. God has blessed that congresswoman because she is expected to make a 100% recovery.



What are your thoughts on our President’s address?? Lets speak on it!!

Heartaches For America..

Your girl was out of commission last week handling greater things my CT followers, but I’m glad I am able to come back and share a few things with you. My place of employment held a national conference last week and while I was completely exhausted and wiped out, I can truly say that it literally flipped my whole perspective on things. Its great to actually see where your hard work goes to in a broader perspective with people all over the country. Anyways, let me get to the point.

I had some free time so I decided to sit in on a workshop about Homelessness in America. Now we see homeless people all the time and it kind of threw me off because it wasn’t necessarily the main focus of the conference, but I think that this one workshop enlightened me more than anything else. I got a chance to see how much money the government and congress set aside for homeless resources, displaced veterans, and rural housing programs in general. Each year the amount of funded money for housing dramatically decreases while the amount set aside for weapons of destruction doubles in amount. In a few years there will be no funds for homelessness and rural development. Where are the priorities in America??

Now I’m definitely not a professional in this field, but the numbers don’t lie; people do. How can you place so much money into weapons and then leave the men and women who have served for you on the streets? Your killing the people of this country and then you bring them back and expect them to be the same?

My heart aches for a country that tries to be superman to every other country on this planet but can’t save its own people. America thrives on the purpose of its people. Without the people there is no America; yet we kill and destroyed them daily like they are dispensable.

How do we live in a country where everything is literally going downhill before your eyes? It’s like watching something terrible happen in slow motion and not being able to do a thing about it. The very fabric of this country is unraveling down to the principles of the Constitution. Although things might not be as clear cut as before, common decency for people, equality for all, and the protection for the people of this country should never have to change.

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