Practice What You Preach

 

“You say there’s a lesson that you wanna teach, well here I am baby, practice what you preach”

I hope you read that lyric with Barry White’s baritone’s voice playing in your head. Today’s topic is universal; all over the board. It can be applied to relationships, religion, friendships, marriages, finances, etc., etc., you name it, it can be applied anywhere, even to what Barry was referencing…sex. I once was at a place in my life (last month) where I needed advice on pretty much everything. I wanted to get opinions and feedback from others to ensure that I was making the proper decisions. While most of the advice was good, I found it problematic that the advice that I was given was not being practiced by the same people who had done the “preaching” and honestly, I have found myself as well on the not practicing what you preaching end.  Generally speaking, it is always easier to give advice than actually follow the advice you give. That is because you are the outside person looking in on the situation, so you can give advice without any biases. Yet, once you find yourself smack dab in a similar situation, you forget about all that Dr. Philing you had been doing.  You begin to make adjustments here and there and give exceptions to the rules. You forget that you dated a level 10 chick on the fugly scale, but you clowning your boy on the women he dates. You take to Twitter and Facebook to drop Think Exist quotes knowledge on your statuses/tweets, yet you don’t take the message of those quotes you post and apply it to your own life. Or you talk about starting anew, yet you stage an offering to get real offerings..**side-eye**

What’s worse is once you realize this person is great at giving advice, but just not great at following it, you begin to question their advice, feedback, words, etc., from that point onward. You listen, but you take it with a grain of salt and in the worse case, you become a cynic.  You become that cynic because this is a person that you probably have trusted, believed and revered. You looked to this person for advice, yet if they say one thing and do the opposite, it’s hypocritical and we all know that hypocrisy is never respected. I close this post by saying that some advice is good, but your own thoughts should never be put on the back burner for someone else’s- unless you intend on jumping off a bridge. Only you know what’s completely best for you and your life, “ya dig?” If you have found yourself in a place where someone loved to give you advice, but wasn’t following their own advice, what do you do? How do you handle these folks?

Marriage: Is Anything Sacred Anymore?? Part 1

After having a very lively conversation on Twitter about marriage, I decided to write a post about it, broken up into two parts: first part is about the two different kinds of marriage I see and part 2 will be why wouldn’t you want to get married.

We live in a country where you have the right to live just about any way you want. Recently, it has been noted that most people just aren’t getting married anymore, and the divorce rate is as high as its ever been in the past years…so where does that leave us? What does marriage really mean to us? Some say they never want to be married, and there’s nothing wrong wit it; while some still desire to have the fairytale ending. I’ve come to the conclusion that marriage can be interpreted into two categories; institutionalized or religious.

Institutionally, marriage is a form of joint agreement between two people on paper. This paper says that these two people are partners acknowledged by the state or wherever they live. This person has to be filed on your taxes, anything that asks for your status, you say married, and any type of thing pertaining to the law you are now marked as being together with a certain individual. Sounds restraining doesn’t it? Sounds cold? Well this is how I feel some people view marriage, they do it because that’s what you are suppose to do when you’ve been with someone for a really long time and you’re ready to take the next step. The fact that people are so easily getting divorced is because the relationship may not mean as much to them as it should. If you’ve been with a person this amount of time, then you should probably get married…probably? are you sure about that one? You can love someone but not want to share your life with them; and that’s where the difficulties began to arise within a marriage. Some people have no problem getting a divorce because it’s just like canceling cable..you get over it. I’m not saying that an institutionalized marriage has no love in it, there are plenty of couples who just don’t want to deal with the hassles of the ceremony; or their religious beliefs may be different. Some people just take marriage as about as serious as riding a bike; when you finally learn how to ride it’s the greatest feeling in the world, at the same time you can get off and on any time you want to.

Marriage in the religious aspect is a ceremony where a couple presents their relationship to God saying this is the person that you have sent for me to spend my life with. This is the person I want to wake up every morning to, this is the person that I will love through sickness and in heath, till death do us part, and all the other things that they say that I don’t know. We all aren’t perfect, and sometimes we make mistakes with the people we marry, but if you do decide to marry this person then you owe it not only to yourself but to God to make it work. If it means compromising then that something you need to learn to do in order to work with your other half. People just give up to easily and forget why they got married in the first place. Sex in the religious world is not viewed as just a pleasurable act between two people; is a form of worship to God. Therefore sex with an individual that is not your spouse, sin; sex with your husband/wife you’re worshiping to God with the gift that he has given you just to be yours. To get off being so technical, it all comes down to the amount of love you have for this person. You should see God within your spouse, mostly because the love that you get from your spouse should be the most fulfilling love you’ve ever experienced.

So what about the people who just don’t see the point in marriage…thats part 2 folks..

Tatted Up: A Taboo in Religion and the Workplace?

Tattoos are one of the most expressive forms of individuality. I think it’s fair to say that most of the people in our generation have at least one tattoo, whether it’s in visible sight or not. Most that don’t have tattoos probably would like one. Tattoos in religion and in the workplace are the subjects that can be the big elephant in the room; everyone notices it but no one will ever really say anything about it. Tattoos are labeled a sin within religion and non-professional in the workplace. I’m not going to lie, I am pretty aware of both of these reasons and I still want a tattoo.

Now when I talk about religion on here it will probably only be about Christianity because that is my faith. I can’t speak about the practices of any others. Tattoos are labeled a sin because they deface the temple of God; which is the body He gave us on this earth. “Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you; I am the Lord” (Leviticus 19:28) Now this verse seems to be very confusing with the whole “dead” thing.  At the same time, if we followed this verse then the majority of us would be in sin because we have our ears pierced. I really don’t get it. I think the Bible is something that people tend to take the words so literally. Also, because the Bible has been interpreted so many times, the actual meaning could have been obscured. I do believe that it is saying that tattoos are a sin; but what if that tattoo was a Bible verse? Would that still be defacing the temple of God? Or could that be a way of promoting God’s word?

We all know that tattoos are frowned upon in the office place, especially a very corporate environment. I’m pretty sure that most of those types of people have their tattoos located in places that are covered by their oxford shirts and blazers. If you come in for an interview and you have a tatt on your neck, hands, or fingers, chances are your chance for that job just went out the window. It’s a harsh world but that’s the kinda world we live in. The corporate world has yet to compromise with the changes of our generation…or have they? Most celebrities are tatted to an extreme degree and they are accepted in the corporate world when it’s time to handle business. Is it just because of their fame that they are allowed? Or do they just only allow them to get to a certain level of professionalism? Are they even taken seriously? Even if that is the case, I guess you could say that we are making progress into accepting tattoos but on the other hand I think it will be a verrryyyy long time before we see a Senator or even our next President with visible tattoos.

So would I get a tattoo? Yes. Would I get one visible through professional attire? Probably not.

I wanted my tattoo to be a Bible verse anyways. LOL.

-T.L.C.

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